Sunday, February 3, 2013

All about Love

I'm behind this week, so I'm posting a blog I posted elsewhere last week.  So sorry!

Valentine's Day is coming up soon, and although I'm not an authority on love I'm a romantic suspense author who writes about love.  The old saying: Love thy neighbor as you do yourself comes to mind.  Who do you love?

There are many different kinds of love. For instance, love between spouses, love between parents and their children, love between siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles, grandchildren and a whole slew of people.  I love everyone even those I don't really like because I care what happens to them.

In many cases there are varying degrees of affection for the people you care about.  Of course, you're going to love those who are the closest to you like your husband, children and other family members, but there's always room for others. 

Friends come to mind for me and I have several lifelong friends.  I have great affection for them, or I wouldn't have stayed in touch with them. You can love neighbors who become friends when you have lived next to them for years. 

Is it possible to love someone who hurts you?  I draw the line at loving people who abuse others physically or mentally, but I write about them in my stories.  I even humanize them with some background about them, but I can't care for them in their present lives because they chose the wrong path.  Or in my stories, the path I chose for my character.  This is when you have to care and love the victim.

I love my hubby more than anyone.  When my mother was alive it was a tossup between hubby and mom because I loved them both equally, although, in totally different ways.  My siblings and children are next in line, and then the rest of the family, friends, etc. 

Who matters most to you?

Sandra K. Marshall  


amber polo said...

Interesting questions.
The heart is so mysterious.
Finding a loving connection to another is wonderful and not always logical.
I liked what you said about abuse and love. I think that's in another category.

Linda LaRoque said...

We also have to remember we need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. That's what is wrong with so many abusive people--they don't love themselves or they're the ones who love only themselves.

Sandy said...

Thank you, Amber. Yes, abuse and love is in another category.

Thanks, Linda. You made an interesting comment.

K.T. Bishop said...

My mother was dead by the time I got married. The mother of my children would come first

Sandy said...

Thank you, K.T. I'm sorry to hear you lost your mother at such a young age.